I haven't written in a very long time....so when I found a beautiful post titled Sweet Little Bride by
Scissortail SILK, I found it very inspiring. I hope that she doesn't mind that I borrowed some of her language and plugged in my story. Please read hers at the link provided because I know you will find her original to be very beautiful.
This is from my heart on Valentine's Day. I love you, my sweet husband!
Sweet little bride with love in your eyes...
What a beautiful wedding day! It really couldn’t have been
better.
Late for the hairdresser…no food
for most of the day…a very large fear that the groom’s cake was melting into a
puddle in your mother-in-law’s hotel room or van…a wedding coordinator that
left you a little uncoordinated.
Of
course, the lack of coordination meant half of the guests leaving before the
reception began…a little awkward entrance…not quite sure when to cut the cake
and an in-suite visit from your entire family (mom, dad and sister) on your
wedding night because the marriage license was left at the church…but none of
that mattered. Did it? Because that sweet boy standing next to you is now
officially yours forever.
You cannot imagine what the next 10 years will hold. You are
standing there in your 300-degree wedding dress ready to conquer the
world while half wondering what you just got yourself into. You are just a
baby. You have no idea about life or what it means to be an adult or wife… But
with that sweet boy by your side…well, you just wait.
Sweet little bride with life in you eyes, explore as
much as you can on your honeymoon! Ten years
from now you won’t care
that you got an even tan one afternoon, BUT when you have two tiny toddlers
around your legs, you will long for a day of exotic exploration. Soak it up!
In that first six months, you will stand with
all you can for “rightness.” Don’t bother. To this day if that sweet boy
standing next to you says the sky is orange, there is nothing you will be able
to do to convince him that it is blue. Practice with me, “Yes, what a lovely
orange sky we are having today, my darling.”
Be sporadic.
Fly by the seat of your
pants every once in a while… let that sweet boy buy that camper shell for the
back of his S-10 and spend that weekend carrying out Thanksgiving traditions in
sub-zero temperatures in the mountains…camping and having adventures with
friends and family.
This decision will
sweeten your parent’s offer a year down the road of that tiny little pop-up
camper that you all four used to sleep in.
You will buy your first house a couple of months
after your one year anniversary. You will spend the next 9 years remodeling
every inch of that home and still be nowhere close to where you want it to be. Your husband will be right about ‘most’
everything when it comes to the remodeling process. Save your breath at Lowe’s
every Saturday, unless of course you enjoy eating crow.
Oh and that giant flat screen projection tv you buy for the
rental house (newlywed TV) will be a terrible idea. You will pay it off
quickly, but will practically kill that sweet boy and your neighbor-man getting
it in to the house. And, after you
move to your new home...you won’t be able to give it away on Craigslist…but oh
how that sweet boy will love watching football on it. ;) Ten years from now you will be able to buy 4 giant TVs for what you paid
for that thing. Oh well.
Oh sweet little bride with love in your eyes, you just
wait…Try to remember that he isn’t perfect and that neither are you. You will
quickly learn how to hurt each other effectively. Do not use your words as
weapons. There will be no greater regret, and you will never be able to “unsay”
it.
Oh sweet little bride with life in your eyes…
Slow down. Enjoy married life. Take short trips. Explore. Enjoy each other’s
company because babies come quickly.
Ignore constant questions about when you two will start a family…don’t
feel bad if you aren’t keeping up with the Jones…go at your own pace and love
each other deeply.
Look into that sweet boy’s eyes. He will be the
one with whom you share life’s greatest joy and announce to the world that you
are expecting a baby. Twenty weeks seems so long to find out the sex…be it a boy
or a girl…know your family will be ecstatic and that you are about to embark on
a journey with this sweet child that will only bring you closer.
Life will never be the same once you are a momma. Your
priorities will change. Your attention will be on the baby. Put the baby in the
crib and look at your husband every now and then.
Spend time with him.
Continue to go on dates.
Maintain your inside jokes, put down your phones and electronics every once in a while and never stop
talking or communicating.
Sweet little bride, that man will put your wants above his
own for years. Notice it. Love him fully, and tell him how much you appreciate
him every day. He loves you so much even if he isn’t very good at “saying how
he feels.” Ten years from now you will realize that he has shown you with
hard work and dedication just how much he adores you. Listen to his heart.
You will be exhausted and keeping up with the
needs of an almost one-year-old when you and that sweet boy standing next to
you decide it is time to do it all again.
It might be slow going, but you just wait. Sing to The Lord and remember
His goodness. Don’t fret. All will come in His time…Go on that family beach
trip next September. Enjoy every minute of your vacation. It will be your last
before you are parents for the second time. You will bring home a precious
souvenir and will tell the world that you are expecting again! Congratulations!
That second baby will bring so much joy to your family and
10 years from now you will be so glad that those two babies are so close
together and such good friends.
Oh sweet little bride, there is so much more that I wish that I could tell
you. There is so much that you couldn’t ever foresee, but 10 years from now you
will love that boy more than you do on this day. You will grow up together and
make the journey into adulthood holding each others hands.
You will change almost completely from the people you are today. But, the
Lord will grow you together. He will keep you together. There will be moments
when you do not recognize the person across the kitchen table from you. You
will wonder how the heck you got “here.” You will wonder if you’re going to
make it… And then, you will. Dream together. Hope together. Remind each other
of God’s promises for your lives. Reach for them. Succeed together.
Sweet little bride with love in your eyes…
God knew exactly what He was doing when he gave you that
precious boy standing next to you. Trust God. Love your husband. Enjoy every
minute of the journey… because 10 years from now, you will love him more than
you ever thought you could and you will wonder how 10 years could have possibly
passed so quickly. Oh sweet little bride you just wait. It will all turn out
better than your sweetest dreams.
